The missing piece

A Testimonial of Jae written by someone

Jae is the definitive person who is not who he seems to be, which is confusing when he suddenly acts like himself, but you get used to that.
His many faces include robot, pervert, alien and pedobear – but he’s 100% human, so don’t forget.

He seems to be quite especially complex, but the actual fact is he just likes people to think he is complex.

I think he does for a couple of different reasons –

So he can see who really cares about him and so he can laugh at people who try desperately to figure him out.

He doesn’t like people to think he cares about them, but he actually really does and he just wishes that he doesn’t.
This is because he knows that caring means there is a possibility he will be disappointed and he’s not very good at handling disappointment.
The reason for this lack of trust in people is because he’s been hurt before.

He does this annoying thing where he jumps to negative conclusions about everything and says that he’s just being realistic.
I get why he does that though. It’s because frequently his reality has been negative.

Jae appears to most people to be a raving pervert who is amused by all things distasteful, but actually he laughs more at completely
innocent things.

Don’t presume he is always a ‘light hearted, good natured, laughing at dirty jokes and teasing clown’. That’s just what he does because
he likes to find out who is willing to take him seriously – don’t get me wrong though he does play around a lot – teasing and bickering.
but yeah, remember he’s a human – if you think he will play all the time you’re wrong.

You see, Jae can act one way, but be feeling the exact opposite. Sometimes he messes with people because he wants to make them to smile and then
other times he messes with them because he wants to feel better. It’s very irritating when he does that, because it doesn’t last for
very long and he ends up snapping at you and then you get annoyed at him and then you fight etc etc.

He’s a good friend when he decides that you actually WANT to be his friend and not just using him for kicks – this takes a while for him to process.
Having been hurt before he is very wary about who he trusts and flies off the handle if he misunderstands you and thinks you are using him.
When he’s in a bad mood – stay the hell away – trust me – he likes figuring things out himself.
Completely aggravating cos sometimes you don’t realise he’s in a bad mood until he actually does explode.

Fighting with Jae is not very nice. And I mean real fighting, not teasing fake play fighting.

Not everything about him irritates me though. He actually does go out of his way to make people smile, even if his methods are completely
inappropriate.

If he knows he’s been mean, he’ll say sorry – and that means a lot coming from him, cos he HATES saying sorry.

He has the talent of quickly being able to get what kind of a person you are, this is because you end up talking all about yourself, because he
hardly ever talks about himself – though he loves knowing what you think of him.

Sometimes you’ll be pleasantly surprised when he shares something he’s interested in with you.

That’s the thing about him – he’s willing to share the happy parts of his life with you, but doesn’t like sharing the ‘Other stuff’

In a way it’s his way of not burdening his friends because he doesn’t think they will understand.
Though from a different perspective he is burdening his friends by not telling them because true friends like to be there for one another.

If he needs help with something and he knows you can, he will ask – and as a friend I accept this is how he works.

In fact, the best thing to do, is just accept him, not presume that he is always out to make you laugh and enjoy his Jae-ness.

From experience he is more out to test your patience than to make you laugh anyway – lots of experience.

In a sentence. Jae annoys me a lot, we clash in opinions always and fight frequently, but he’s someone who’s made my life better just by being him and
I wouldn’t want it any other way.